It is not unusual for your teen daughter or son to behave in a different way towards when they approach the age around 13-14. The will try and keep their privacy from you, and other time they will not want to listen to you and will not do whatever you expect from them.
It happens to most parents, and if you don't have this issue, you should be happy and if you have don't worry, keep reading the solutions mentioned in this article and act accordingly.
As we all did during our teenage times, we liked to hang around with our friends most of the time and also we wanted to make our decisions without even asking our parents. Therefore, the same way children in this day and age want to do the same.
But now, you are worried that your teen is not listening to you. And he is out of control.
Stop worrying and first and foremost step is to strengthen your relationship with your teen, but you must be thinking how I can do that.
Here are the solutions:
1.Have regular conversations with your teens.
It is better for you to get into the conversation first and if you notice that your teen doesn't want to hear you and you have to ignore their feelings and continue to talk, about the events on a particular day. Always find interesting topics for them to talk about so that they will eventually fall into that conversation because it interested them.
2.Have your patience and listen to him.
He might appear to be critical about your views, but you have to let him express his views, and you need to learn to take it in. Otherwise, it will create a bad atmosphere and might interrupt the conversation. Therefore, listening to him is important but make a note of his critics and find an opportunity to use it to let him know that he was wrong.
3.Make some rules for your teens.
He has to understand the rules and even if he does anything which is not accepted by you, it is important for you to forgive them and also set your limits for it and make sure that they do know not to cross those boundaries. At the same time, he has to be aware of the consequences of the bad behavior. Therefore, you can indirectly show him to avoid the misbehavior and not to go beyond a level.
When you respect his opinion in a discussion, this will make him respect your opinion and eventually create a trust in you. Even if he showed you that he was not accepting it, his inner mind would begin to think and start taking it.
- Encourage your teen to spend more time on his interests.
If he is interested in sports, start encouraging him to become more motivated towards it, and if he knows that you are the biggest admirer, it will boost his interest. On the other hand, if he is into new sports, it will be your responsibility to monitor his safety and the way he handles everything, such as the interactions with friendships and colleges as far as the activity is concerned. It will lead to safely taking his responsibility.
- Spend more time with your teen
You need to realize the reason for his misbehaviour is you have not spent quality time with him, and you were not available to sort his issues in his difficult times. Therefore, having realized that you have to make a plan to spend more time with him to do things together. The things mean he wanted to do it for a long time, but he missed it because he didn't have enough activity to fulfill that or may be long-standing desire to do something but he needed support. As a result, you will find an improvement in the relationship.
Further, when you are thinking about doing things together, select a day every week and have some exciting activity for your teen and continue that on a consistent basis therefore if it does interest your teen, he will look Ford to join you on that day. And on the other hand create events for the whole family having quality time spent together, like going to restaurants, cinema and having weekend outings. The crucial thing is to get your teen close to you using the above methods.
Conclusively, warm and active communication without underestimating your teen is a key to the successful relationship between the two of you. Apparently, it won't work at once. Try the tips progressively and enjoy your time being a parent of a teenager.