How a Good Father Makes the Family Happy!
Father. This word brings up a variety of thoughts and emotions when it is spoken or thought about the fatherhood. Thinking of your father or other parents you know probably brings a lot of memories, both good and bad.
A father’s influence in a child’s life
It is not unusual the boys want to grow up like their dad, and the girls want to marry a man like their dad. What thoughts or memories does the word ‘father' invoke for you? Are your first thoughts pleasant or hard? Do you have childhood memories that include hours of playtime with your dad? Or maybe you remember how your father taught you to fish, climb trees, or build huge castles. Did your dad teach you how to ride a bike, catch a baseball or throw a football? If only everyone could be so lucky and have nothing but great memories and feel the fondness for their father.
Having a good father is something that will forever impact the heart and life of a child. So, whether you grew up with an amazing father or a not so famous father, it is important that you commit yourself to learning to be a good father for your children.
How can you be a real father?
Fathering children well is simply a matter of loving your children like you would love anyone else. What does loving someone require? Perhaps you think of time, or maybe you think of giving gifts as a way to love someone. One of the best ways to be a good father is to spend time with your children. Make time in your busy schedule for them. Spend time getting into their worlds, learning about what they do at school, learning about their friends, and learning about the things they care about as a father. You will never have a healthy relationship with your children if they have no memories of time with their father. So rather than working those extra hours of overtime consider spending those hours playing with and learning your children.
Another way to become a great father is to affirm verbally and praise your kids. A child's confidence and security can be built up significantly with kind words from a father or mother. Consider the power of your words and the effect that one negative or positive comment can have on your child. For most children it is the negative comments they will remember, so look for ways to cut out negative comments or criticism. Let your kids grow up with nothing but praise and loving words from their father.
Having a great dad can be one of the biggest blessings in a child's life. And being a great father can be one of the largest blessings in your life. So, think of creative ways to get involved in the lives of children and be the kind of father they will try to emulate someday.
For most of us, our first father is God. A vast majority of the world considers God as their father; or rather call God as their father. God is the father to all in such believing families. What about biological parents? How does one become a real father? What are the yardsticks by which we measure the goodness of a father?
It is a subject for discussion and application of thought. Who is the final judge about the goodness of the father? The mother? The children? The society? What qualities should a man possess to be called a real father? These questions generate a bigger debate.
Can a mother judge her husband about his goodness as a father? That judgment can depend on so many probabilities. What are her yardsticks? How was her father? What are her beliefs? Do these views match those of her husband? How much does she love her husband and her children? If it comes to taking sides, whose side will she take? Will it be a well thought-out decision or one colored by many other factors?
Can the father judge his goodness? What may be correct according to him, may be wrong according to her children? The man carries his psychological baggage and many times may be prejudging and expecting responses. Generation gap plays a bigger role. As the world progresses, priorities, tastes, values, everything undergoes change. Therefore, a man himself cannot pronounce himself as a real father. Children will contest that if he does not accept their beliefs. Which child will call his father a real father, if the father has set ideas about partying, relationships, studies, etc.?
Can the children judge their dad? That’s hard to believe. The children surely wish for a father who not only agrees with their ideas but supports them in all possible ways in enjoying life. What if a child is such that he believes that enjoying life is more important than studying for examinations?
If we think more about this subject, it will result in more confusion. What is a fatherhood and how does one become a real father? The best way out might be to accept the generation gap, listen to children before giving orders, have a fair debate on all important issues, and tell children exactly about values that will decide the final action. After doing all this, one should simply do one's duty and leave the rest to prayers. And before attempting to become a real father, one should first become a good man. A drug addict can never become a real father, nor a habitual liar.